Old people are like a bundle of soiled and torn clothes, lying in a corner, to be disposed off.” I was shocked when I read it somewhere. How hurting the thought is. For many families, elder members are supporting pillars, despite their physical infirmities and emotional fatigue.
Though in old age many become increasingly pathetic figures, virtually helpless, sometimes blind, incontinent, paralysed etc, the deep love for their family members, the wisdom and experience gained over the years remain with them – making them the store-houses of affection, knowledge and guidance.
Michelangelo, at ninety, having lost his eyesight, ran his hands over statues in St Peter’s Cathedral and exclaimed, “I am still learning”. The spirit to learn will be strong in some old people. That spirit must not die down in others’ apathy and ridicule. Old frames can hold within them young minds and yearning hearts. When we look closer, with our hearts open, we can see not old grouchy people, but people with wings on their minds.
My mother-in-law who passed away recently at 94, enjoyed a life of ups and downs, but she felt “loved” right through. She had a large family, so there was always someone ready to bring in warmth that comforts, a smile that reassures, a presence that calms.
A strong and intelligent lady she was, she could easily perceive others’ feelings and reactions, and so we used to take care not to overwhelm her. She enjoyed an atmosphere of freedom where she could speak of things that upset her or elevated her.
Though geriatric care is not easy, once we respect and understand the inevitability of this unique path called old age, we will love old people unconditionally, to help them reach their end in serenity and peace. Till the last breath of their lives, old people are “vibrant and valuable beings”.
We all must remember that each one must live his or her own death – if we make it easy for others to cross over “to the other side”, by being loving and caring, when our turn comes, probably their blessings will send god’s arms to receive us.
