Whenever a boundary is broken, it creates some fear. The fear creates dislike. This dislike puts us back in the boundary. And to keep yourself in the boundary, you put forth defences. When you try to defend your position, it creates stress. Every time you try to defend your position, it makes you weaker. Drop all your defences. When you are totally defenceless, you become really strong.
Every time you are unhappy or miserable, you are just coming in touch with your own boundaries! And what can you do? You can just feel thankful. "Oh, I came in touch with my boundary, my limitation." You just turn the whole situation into a prayer. Prayer is that moment when you come in touch with your your boundaries.
Your knowledge of a mistake comes to you when you are innocent! Whatever mistake has happened, do not consider yourself a sinner because in the present moment you are again new, pure and clear. Mistakes of the past are past. Often, mothers scold their children and afterwards feel so guilty. Don't be afraid to make mistakes, but not the same mistakes. Sometimes you want to correct your mistakes. There are two situations when you correct others' mistakes. One, you correct someone's mistake because it bothers you. Two, you correct someone's mistake not because it bothers you, but for their sake so that they can grow.
To correct mistakes you need authority and love. Authority and love seem to be contradictory, but in reality they are not. Authority without love is stifling. Love without authority is shallow. A friend needs to have both authority and love but they need to be in the right combination. This can happen if you are totally dispassionate and centered.
When you allow room for mistakes, you can be both authoritative and sweet. That is how the Divine is, the right balance of both. Don't make a mistake by pointing out others' mistakes.Do not tell a person a mistake he knows he has committed. By doing this, you will only make him feel more guilty.
In a state of ignorance, imperfection is natural and perfection is an effort. In a state of wisdom or enlightenment, imperfection is an effort; perfection is a compulsion and is unavoidable.
When you show kindness, your true nature comes into play. Have you ever done acts of kindness without expecting anything out of it? You don't have to plan acts of kindness. Just do something spontaneously. When you do random acts of kindness, you come in touch with your true nature.