There was a big industrialist. He thought only about his business even at home. He had a very talkative wife. Initially, he tolerated the constant nagging of his wife, but as his business grew, he became impatient with her. So in order to find a solution, he approached a saint.

The wife came to know of this. She was furious and immediately confronted him.
I heard that you went to a saint to discuss your problem with me? What great advice did he give you?" she asked. "Sorry! He asked me not to reveal it to you," said the husband.

 "He taught me a mantra. But he has told me not to tell you," replied the husband calmly. "I am asking you for the last time. Tell me what mantra he taught you. If you don"t tell me, right now, I shall pack my bags and go to my mother"s house," screamed the wife, erupting like a volcano!

"Sorry, you have to forgive me. The saint has ordered me never to reveal the mantra… that too, to you."
The wife, with anger, packed her bags and left home. Now the husband was overjoyed! "Success! Success! The mantra worked!" he shouted gleefully. For almost a week, he was at peace, free from his nagging wife. But after that, he felt that the whole house was empty and silent. He began to feel terribly lonely, and became half-mad because he missed his wife a lot! Now, that is a totally different story! The truth revealed by the above anecdote is very simple.

Many husbands in our country expect their wives to be possessive about them. They long to be tied down by love; but at the same time, they also want to be free. Both are however not possible at the same time!
Long ago, I was traveling with one of my students on a bike in Bangalore at night. At a turning, all of a sudden we saw a car without headlights on the wrong side of the road. My student was quick enough to turn the bike away and we had a narrow escape. But the indicator lamps of the bike were damaged.

The driver of the car who had come on the wrong side simply drove away, as if nothing had happened. My student could not control his anger. "Shall we chase that car and stop him? Or shall we inform the police?" he asked. I managed to calm him down after sometime, Then I discovered a truth. My student was not angry at the damage to his bike or the possibility of an accident. He was angry because the driver had left without even uttering one word of apology. Do you know when a person gets hurt the most? It may not be through insult or harsh words. It is when he/she feels that someone considers him/her valuable than a material object.