Seeking approval for someone special
Opinion matters
Is it important that your friends like the one your are dating?
The movie Four Weddings and a Funeral portrayed the importance of being in a relationship.
That it is imperative that your friends like the person you date, even though Hugh Grant (in Four Weddings and a Funeral) ended up dumping the girl his friends hated. But not everyone feels that their friend’s approval holds importance.
Metrolife spoke to a cross-section of Bangaloreans and asked them how significant their friends opinion is and whether it would interfere in their relationship. Although a relationship is only between two people, there are certain aspects to a person’s life that can’t be ignored.
Friends, for instance. It is certainly not pleasant if you are stuck with a bunch of people every week who don’t care much for you.
“I don’t know about the one who is dating but if friends don’t approve of your girlfriend, then it is like sharing food with your enemy,” says Kevin Varghese, an IT professional. Many others agree with him.
“It gets awkward when you want to hang out with your friends. Also you won’t really be comfortable talking about her to your friends because they’ll see the bad side of her more than the good in her,” says Sharad, who works for an animation firm.
Many explain that they consider their friends as their guiding force. “The opinion about your friends definitely matters because they can guide us if we are going wrong in the relationship,” says Neha, a content writer.
But not everyone sees reason in this argument. “I don’t think it is very important for friends to like the one I am dating. I should have a good reason to date the guy but that does not mean I would expect everyone to like him. It is obviously nice if they do but in no way does that become a deciding factor,” says Prerna Singh, a student from Christ University.
And finally, there are people who just view the problem pragmatically. “It is important that the friends, you hang out with should like the person. But there are a few who are very close too but rarely meet for various reasons. It is alright if those friends don’t like your special someone because it doesn’t disrupt your everyday life,” says Chaitanya P, an intern at an advertising firm.
