JOIN US‘Why you are so insecure?’ I asked the young boy in front of me. ‘Imagine someone continuously pestering you about your feelings and affections. How would you feel if your girlfriend keeps nagging you to profess your love to her many times a day?
Asking if you’ll leave her and go to someone else?’ He looked at me sheepishly while I looked at him sharply. ‘She is very bright, ma’am, unlike me who barely manages to scrape through my papers. Also, she is now placed in a good job where she is likely to meet people who are more suited to her.’
I sighed. Dealing with teenagers was bad enough and dealing with love-struck and suspicious ones was sheer torture. Gone are those days when girls had stars in their eyes and love for them was all all-encompassing and end-of-the world situation.
Their world began and ended with their husbands and boyfriends. Girls still have stars in their eyes but it does not occupy their entire universe. It remains a tiny twinkle on the firmament of their minds as they go about their life, their achievements as well as their career goals.
It is not as if modern day girls are any less emotional or affectionate than girls in earlier days. It is just that they have understood where to draw a line to their feelings and to give priority to other matters like education or careers.
Earlier the scope for women was limited in every field and they had less opportunity to meet the other sex. Now with girls studying in co-educational institutions, social networking with people of their own age group, moving out of homes in search of jobs and greener pastures, they have become more confident and enlightened about their own selves, outgrowing insecurities and nagging fears.
It is sad indeed to see that not many men are able to keep pace with the changing woman and her feelings. It is very common to see boys and men trying to control their counterparts, albeit unsuccessfully. Many a guy stalks his girl on facebook and other sites, checking her postings to the point of addiction. A new guy friend added, a ‘like’ from a guy, a comment from another boy sends them to a tizzy. This starts a cycle of nagging and interrogating the girl to such an extent that she decides to snap the tie and break away. Most of them innocently ask ‘she should be happy that I take so much care of her and pamper her, why is she getting upset?’
The afore mentioned boy too, was under the impression that his ‘pampering’ and ‘caring’ meant that he cared a lot for her and it never crossed his mind that it exerted a constant pressure on the girl which would be a precursor to a breakup. As I was pondering over this, I heard a loud cheerful female voice ‘Hi maam, Did you see my new hair cut? My fiancée suggested it. He stayed by my side while I was getting it done and constantly instructed the hair dresser!’ I shuddered to think how it would be, once he started meticulously following up her every action!