JOIN USGender sensitising with the young
Dispelling gender misconceptions is important, especially for the young. Hema Vijay talks to Anusha Hariharan and Sowmya Rajendran who have penned a gender book for young adults
In the literary version of the Harry Potter series, which has been enthralling youngsters across the world for over a decade now, the central female character Hermione Granger is intelligent, sharp and resourceful, but not a raving beauty. Yet, in her onscreen avatar, she is rather conveniently neither buck-toothed nor bushy-haired as described in the books. Closer home, in the hugely popular Hindi film, Kuch Kuch Hota Hai, Shah Rukh Khan’s character failed to notice his female ‘buddy’ as his true love till she shed her basket ball-loving, playful persona and became a sari-wearing diva.
So, does that mean to be a heroine it’s not enough to be quick-witted and skilled; that physical beauty has to be a prerequisite? If a girl loves to play sports then she must be a tomboy or, worse, ‘manly’; those who wear glasses and enjoy reading have to be boring nerds; it’s always boys and men who take up engineering and other technical fields; men do not cook, sew, or do crafts.
It is such confused, misplaced gender stereotypes that compelled Anusha Hariharan and Sowmya Rajendran to pen an easy guide to understanding social cliches for unsuspecting, impressionable teens. Through Gender Talk - Big Hero, Size Zero, the duo uncovers truths, untruths, semi-truths and myths, using everyday examples and ‘talk’ directly to young people about this complex subject with empathy, and explore what it means to belong to a certain gender, socially and culturally.
Debunking theories
These days, various issues around gender and identity are vigorously being projected and debated in the public space. Gay parades, rights of transgenders, metrosexuals, house husbands; these truly are times of social churning, challenging the status quo and experimenting with different ideas. Nonetheless, because there is relevant information and misplaced beliefs doing the rounds at the same time, Anusha and Sowmya decided to combine their knowledge and expertise to debunk theories and enable youngsters to make up their own mind through their book.
While Anusha is a researcher on gender, caste and other issues, Sowmya is an author and has written several books that sensitise children on gender. “When it comes to gender issues, there is a tendency to set oneself apart and see ‘it’ as happening to or by ‘them’. We wanted to get youngsters to think about how gender plays out in their own lives, how they figure in these issues, and how they contribute to the larger status quo. This awareness is the first step towards nurturing gender equality,” point out the astute authors.
Right from birth
Are sex and gender the same thing? Either male or female, right? Of course, men and women are equal - but who calls the shots at home? Who makes the ‘rules’ we are all supposed to follow? Does what you wear ‘invite trouble’? Do women need to be ‘controlled for their own good’? While the book helps find some answers, and raises more questions with better information, the accompanying illustrations by Niveditha Subramaniam “prods and provokes” and tickles the funny bone.
“When I saw Kuch Kuch Hota Hai I was a teenager and I instantly became a huge fan of the film. I immensely enjoyed the songs, dialogues and the chemistry between the lead characters, never realising the obvious patriarchal messages it showcased in such an appealing manner. In fact, we see such stereotypes reinforced over and over again, and most often one doesn’t really notice the unfair and patriarchal messaging behind the gloss,” observes Sowmya.
Although younger people are less set in their ideas, the ironic fact is that the process of gender stereotyping and subtle indoctrination starts right from birth.
Anusha reveals that children constantly receive subtle hidden gender messages and conditioning from all around them - parents, teachers and even from the media, society and peers. When such concerted brainwashing takes place, they simply can’t escape it. In such a coloured backdrop, through the book, the authors look at the different kinds of identities there are today - and how gender is only one aspect of our identity - how we relate to each other and to the larger society, how there is really no perfect male/female body, and why being different is really not a threat to anyone.
Unlearning
“Much of gender education is about unlearning rather than learning. As it is a vast subject, we started off with aspects that are directly relatable and relevant and then made our way towards its larger social impacts,” says Sowmya. She goes on, “If we take a look at gender crimes and the manner in which they are reported in the press, there is a lot that is being kept out. For instance, not many youngsters are even aware of the fact that while newspapers frequently report on incidents of sexual violence by strangers, a good part of it takes place within homes, by known, trusted people. Unfortunately, this goes under-reported because of the stigma associated with being a gender violence victim and the culture of shame that has been built in.”
Anusha and Sowmya have done extensive research for this book and believe that sexual stereotyping actually does contribute to gender crimes. “Any kind of crime is associated with a sense of power over the victim. Masculine power goesunchallenged in our culture and is seen and used as a power to ‘discipline’ people. And therein lies the genesis of gender violence and other gender crimes,” explains Anusha.
World over, there is a lot of gender writing that engages with young adults. In the Indian context, Gender Talk: Big Hero, Size Zero scores rather high, as it makes an honest attempt at arming them with information that will help themdiscern the validity of messages that are constantly beamed towards them through the media and society.
(The article is part of U N Women’s Empowering Women - Empowering Humanity: Picture It! campaign in the lead-up to Beijing+20)
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