Many of us, at many times, try holding on to certain meaningless issues, mindless matters and malignantly entrenched memories, as though they are magnificent ancestral properties. Yes, we are simply loathe to letting go of certain things.
Recently, at a wedding, fortuitously I happened to meet an old friend. Squatting in an unobtrusive corner, as we were zipping through sundry topics, suddenly I saw my friend's face getting clouded when her eyes fell on someone.
Her speech spluttered as she spoke of this person, who, it seems, had tried thwarting her professional success over two decades back at her earlier workplace.
I was amused to see how even after these many years she was unable to exorcise out those bad memories and how she had let the festering feelings to congeal into fiery animosity.
Apparently, within seconds this live-wire raconteuse had transformed into a ratty spitfire being, full of rancour!
Agreed, certain things in the past life would have mentally disconcerted and distressed us. But by dredging up and holding onto those bad memories, we'd only be making them rankle in the mind forever, with its recrudescence effect.
Just the other day, at a restaurant, as I was basking in a jot of joie de vivre, bolting down some delicacy, I was jolted by a sudden commotion. Then I saw a patron, screaming in stentorian tones at the steward, taking a swipe at his slack service.
More chaos was created as co-workers crowded around, getting embroiled in a spat, expressing solidarity. The miffed patron, who couldn't be mollified, just stormed out saying he'd stop patronising that place henceforth.
Many times what we fail to realise is, by not letting go of certain trifle matters, we'd be inflicting mental pain on ourselves, besides incurring some irrevocable losses. Road rage cases are classic instances of how frivolous issues snowball into flaming fracas, as people simply don't want to let go of a few things.
Maybe it is our swollen ego, maybe to show off vocal prowess; we tenaciously try clinging to certain petty matters, by arguing untiringly, frittering colossal time and energy.
This not-letting-go attitude, we see not only in workplaces, friends'/ relatives' circuits, etc, but also in political arenas, wherein we witness politicos, inexorably hooked onto their own views/ opinions, passing incendiary remarks over contentious issues, thereby creating ructions and making political meets farcical. To these folks, losing arguments is akin to losing some prestigious awards.
Well, it's time we realised this attitude of aggressive holding onto mindless issues/ matters could be quite self-destructive, somewhat similar to nursing an exacerbating canker! For, once our mind is polluted by anger or agitation, it'd not only destroy our inner peace/ happiness, but even of those closely related to us. That's why it's said, "Make the most of all that comes and least of all that goes!"