These kidults crave for parents

These kidults crave for parents


Youngsters are now moving their bags and baggage back to their parents’ home.

Bonding: Young adults look for emotional support. Till five years ago Robin Suri, 27 craved to get out of his parents’ “clutches” and thirsted for what according to him was freedom. Today, Robin is a typical kidult (read: kid+adult) who after tasting freedom has turned back to the cosy confines of his family. “I just need love,” Robin states with moist eyes. But he’s not alone, there is a growing tribe of these adults and the kid in them just refuses to grow.

This arts teacher came to Delhi in 2003 and loved the newly acquired independence. Then came a phase that left this kidult broken-hearted and back went the boy into his parents' tender arms. “I got into a relationship that broke up after a year and I was left shattered. I even tried professional counselling but that didn’t help. So, I decided to pack everything and get back to my parents,” explains Robin. 

His mother Veena Suri points out, “We knew that Robin had been through a tough time so as parents we tried to be as understanding as we could. We haven’t curbed his freedom in any manner.”

 But every kidult might not pave his way back home with tears. There could be reasons such as higher education, or even being homesick to call out for ‘mumma’ and ‘pappa’. Like Priyanka Athavale, 24, did.

After having stayed alone for five years, Priyanka has now moved back to live with her parents. “I have been home studying for the last six months and after this I am planning to go back to Mumbai, she informs. But isn't her freedom curbed? "Yes, I am used to an independent lifestyle – both financially and emotionally. But, I must confess that I get my motivation from mom and dad, so they encourage me to study and work harder,” she smiles.

Ghar ka khana peena (home cooked food) was another reason that has kept her home. She adds, “However, leaving parents again will be difficult because in these few months I have realised that my feeling of loneliness had subsided.”

These kidults owe a lot to their parents and don’t even mind being laughed at by the more “independent” peers. Ankita Deshpande, 30, banking consultant sent her friends scoffing at her when she decided to move back with her parents in Delhi after staying alone in Pune for three years.

“I was extremely apprehensive and even chalked out the option of staying separately. But when I moved back home I was treated like a prodigal daughter and till date I continue living with them,” she shares. Psychologist Sangeeta Gorey explains about this trend, “Due to growing competition and fast-paced lifestyle, youngsters often feel trapped between practicality and emotions. That’s when friends and colleagues also fail and parents become a strong support to their children.”