Kids yearn for grandparental love

There was a time, when cities like Bangalore had homes with little verandahs where children would listen to wonderful stories told by their grandparents.
Grandparents were known for their affection and patience and were mentors to their grandchildren.

In today's modernised world, parents are busy with demanding careers and are unable to fulfil a mentor’s role. Scattered families and global mobility have taken children far away from the reach of grandparents.

Today, very few grandparents live with their grandchildren. They tell them wonderful stories in the evenings, drop them to school and play with them. But everyone is not that lucky.

Viraj, for example, only remembers his grandfather faintly, having stayed away from his native place since early childhood.

“My grandfather was like the gladiator of our village, a tall and tough man.  All the villagers respected him and I received a lot of love and learning from him,” he says.
 “Although I only met him once a year, I spent a number of peppy and perky summer holidays in his house. After his demise, I don't feel there is any good reason for me to visit my native place anymore,” he adds.

Govind Rao, who lives in Shimoga, was very elated  the day he became grandfather. His daughter went back to Bangalore after her delivery. Because of their demanding jobs, his daughter and son-in-law were unable to visit him for nearly eight months.

“I was excited to see my granddaughter and though she did not recognise me I really enjoy playing with her,” he says.
Sadashiv and Meera are expecting their fifth grandchild. Even though they live in Belgaum, they share a deep bond with their grandkids.

 “After struggling my whole life to have my children well placed, I am now enjoying retired life with my wife. In spite of living far away, I love the company of my grand kids,” says Sadashiv.

Madhu, a marketing professional, attributes his successful career to his grandmother. “I lived with my grandmother  on and off during my father’s outstation postings. She was a tough woman and the head of a large family of over twenty members. She was kind but firm and made a big impression on me. I was so fond of her that I was reluctant to rejoin my parents,” he says.

Grandparenting means parenting two generations at the same time.

Having a child again in the family and  watching him or her grow is a wonderful experience. Unfortunately, the City with its globalised lifestyle is losing out on this aspect of living.