'We don't try to own each other'

'We don't try to own each other'

When Sahasa Simha Vishnuvardhan first made his entry into the big wide world of Kannada film industry, Bharati (not his wife then) had already created a niche for herself. But cupid stuck them both on the sets of their first film together and gradually their friendship turned into a life-long bond of togetherness. Today, even after 34 years of marital life they still share the same vibration. “I still remember how jovial he was as a person, always singing, even I used to sing with him. We had a great time. Before I knew it, he became very close to my family, who loved him a lot and one day he approached them for my hand. But his side of the family wanted us to wait for a while as his career had just started. So we got married two years later,” says Bharati.

 Being total opposites by nature, even Vishnuvardhan was amazed that they got together. If he makes up for her quiet nature, she covers up for his lack of socialisation. “I owe a lot to her and in no way deserve her,” says Vishnuvardhan candidly, while adding, “I was a rebel earlier, very child-like, and lost a lot of people in the process. I was especially never the kind who would stick to one thing or person for long.”
It was then that Vishnuvardhan listened to his ‘sixth sense’ that told him that there was something special about this woman. “I rarely get along well with people. I have few friends and share a camaraderie with them and she is one of them. There was something about her that made her my best friend. Today, whatever I am is because of her. This is a fact that many of my colleagues and friends too say,” he adds.

 Unwilling to take the credit Bharati says, “I don’t know how much of that I deserve. He may say that he is very childish and I agree he has been a bit careless in his life but he is a very good-hearted person and we all love him for his innocence,” says she.

Both being big stars who continue to work, coping with the lifestyle was tough but they managed to strike a balance. “We are like any other professional doing our work. And we don't interfere with each other’s work,” says she. Vishnuvardhan points out, “There is a reason why we have a huge gate in our house,” he explains. “My mother made us put that gate on purpose and made us promise that there will always be a big gate between our professional lives and our private one. The minute we enter our house we leave our work outside the gate.”  At home, Vishnuvardhan says that he is a very fidgety person, doing something constantly. But when it comes to cooking, well, he can’t do much. “My family was traditional and since I was a left-handed person, I was barred from doing things. Because of this I rarely got a chance to try out anything. That’s why even today I can’t even boil water. But my wife makes everything that I love.” And what does he like to have? “Everything that she makes I like,” says Vishnuvardhan, who Bharati says is a non fussy eater.

 Parenthood came along when they had two daughters, Keerthi and Chandana. More than parents Vishnuvardhan and Bharati have been their friends, accepting everything they did and counselling them throughout their growing up years. “Counselling is very important. That’s what lacks in today’s parents. When we were young, our parents would call us for a family meeting once a week, where everyone knew what was happening in each other’s lives. There were no secrets.” After spending almost two-and-a half-hour in their green abode, one realises that despite all the ups and downs, it is love and unconditional trust that still keeps them ticking.
    “We don’t try to own each other. We trust each other and tell each other everything,” says Bharati while Vishnuvardhan adds, “Love is an essential factor, just love the other person unconditionally and you are bound to have a give and take relationship and that’s when you receive immense happiness.”     

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