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Last Updated 02 September 2010, 12:13 IST
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Relationship remains an area where there are no rules laid down. ‘To each his own’, they say irrespective of how different one couple may be from another. Couples always have to deal with similar issues about past life.

Today, there’s hardly anybody who hasn’t been in a relationship at some point or the other. When in new relationship one partner or both often wonder whether they should be open about their past life. Metrolife talks to people to find out whether they must be open about their past.

Many feel the kind of information to be given to their partner, to a great deal depends on the nature of the person. While informing about the past, it’s best to know what is important to tell and what not to. “Before deciding to take any such step, it is advisable you know what goes down well with your partner,” says Anish, an IT professional. “There is no point giving out information that is going to remain like a fish bone in his or her throat,” he adds.

In relationship, jealousy is one of the most common reasons for ruining a happy bonding. “Silly things often crop up to create tiffs if you tell too much about the relationship you had with your ex. Especially if it was a good one,” says Suchi, a professional.

Many also believe that being in relationships have become so normal today that these things are not of much consequence. “Everyone has been in relationship so when I meet a girl I don’t expect to be the first guy she must have been with. So it’s no big deal to tell a person about your past, especially since you are going to marry him,” says Arindam, a marketing professional.

Being modern doesn’t necessarily mean that the level of understanding has improved. “Ideally, the level of honesty between two people depends upon the level of maturity and mutual trust,” says Aditya, a professional.

“For someone who is mature, the past should not matter provided he or she has gotten over it. But in case of a nagging partner, it is best to conceal a few things about your past. There is no point creating an information overload for a person who can not take it,” he adds.

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(Published 02 September 2010, 12:13 IST)

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