JOIN USDouble trouble
Hi Sexi Saheli,
My tennis partner and I have been wife-swapping for over two years with the consent of the women involved. The problem now is that I don’t like my wife anymore. I like the other woman, my partner’s wife. I’m not sure if she feels the same way and I feel a bit embarrassed to confess my feelings.
Mr Break Point
Hi Mr Break Point,
It’s unclear what you want to swap. Do you want to swap wives? Wait! You are already doing that. Do you want to run away into the sunset with the other woman and swap the life you are having for one of monogamy? What if you get tired of it again? Speak to her if you wish but remember, in this game of doubles, she has the advantage.
Dear Sexi Saheli,
I am 24 years old and my parents have fixed my marriage with a nice girl. The problem is I have no interest in sex or in anything materialistic. I want to be a yogi. My greatest wish is to go to the Himalayas and find my guru. My parents say that after my marriage, these feelings will change. Is that true?
Kaushik
Dear Kaushik,
I am no spiritual authority and I cannot say whether your feelings will change — those are left to the higher gods … and you. What I would say is don’t marry a girl who is expecting a normal wedded life and experiment whether she will elevate you to nirvanic bliss. Yes, marriages are made in heaven but don’t make it a hell for her.
Hey Saheli,
I am 18-years-old and I am having feelings for a boy. He and I were classmates. We used to chat and speak for hours every day. It’s now been three years. I always made him feel I have feelings for him and he knows … I think he has feelings too but he never says anything. One month ago, I stopped speaking to him bczzz he is hurting me by not telling me his feelings. I think of him every day. I love him. What should I do?
Divya
Hey Divya,
He may have been in the same class but I think you may be failing the course of love. After 30 days of not speaking to him, if he still doesn’t care, why do you? Maybe the feelings you think he has for you, are in your head and not in his heart. It may hurt but you need to move on. Find someone else who you can speak your feelings to … and hopefully they’ll speak back to you in the same language of love.