In order to change this pattern, we need to first pause and observe what’s going on in our minds. We need to just focus on being before thinking, judging, analysing, and doing.
When we become aware of what’s going on inside our mind, we realize that we are not our thoughts; we are the observer of our thoughts from moment to moment, and then we stop judging them.
It is like watching waves rising and falling on the surface of the ocean. Living in the present reduces impulsive and reactive behaviour.
Those who live in the moment can hear negative feedback without feeling threatened. They are more accepting, accommodating, and flexible, as a result of which they have easy and satisfying relationships.