JOIN USThe inner peace and joy, derived by sharing good relations with folks around, can indeed act as an antidote to the abundant mental stress that we are assailed with in today’s aggressively competitive times.
But unfortunately nowadays, maybe because most of us are strapped for time, (thanks to the life on fast tracks), we don’t seem to have neither patience nor zest to nurture good relations, except with the ones that we find inevitable. Hence many relations, including few important ones too, tend to collapse even before they are built.
Well, what are the factors responsible in causing this irrevocable rift in relationships? The first factor being, the lack of trust. For, once we lack trust in people, we have this proclivity to narrow-mindedly misinterpret everything that they say/do. And, when there is no trust, we even become credulous, being an easy target to the ‘misunderstanding-vendors’, who go about igniting flames of misunderstandings among people, just for cheap thrills. Lack of trust also impedes our free communication, making us all clammed up and secretive, thus restricting us from sharing our thoughts, experiences, etc, which are indeed vital in the growth of any close relationship.
Next, unhealthy competitive spirit, with lack of magnanimity to appreciate good qualities in others too can weaken relationships. After all, it needs a large heart to help others to be successful in something, and to identify their happiness as our own. Egos, jealous streaks and subsequent anger bouts and heartburns - all these creeping in a relationship can indubitably annihilate even the cohesively woven human bonds. Many times it so happens that in the name of being frank, we tend to get tad rude. Impolite/churlish attitude also can torpedo the chances of a relationship blossoming into an ever-lasting bond. On the contrary, endearing, genuinely loving and caring nature (bereft of all artifice, façade) can be highly conducive to the rich growth of any relationship. Interestingly, a simple ‘thanks’ can build instant new bonds, while a ‘sorry’ can renew estranged bonds.
And then, lack of reciprocity of good gestures too can scuttle the prospective of developing good relationships. Apparently, being generous in spending one’s time, energy, money, etc, on others, do help in establishing sturdy bonds. (Incidentally, as actions speak louder than words there are myriad ways of exhibiting the relation-strengthening gestures). Disrespecting others’ ideas, views, opinions, tastes, feelings, etc, with the attitude of “I-know-best and I’m-always-right” can also sabotage the probabilities of good relations.
Finally, we should note that unwavering implicit trust, sincere love and loyalty, are all supposedly the strong threads, woven in the fabric of any relationship. Once these threads are flimsy, it wouldn’t take long for the rips/tears to reveal itself in that relationship fabric!