<p>Living up to the positive spirit of Irrfan Khan, his family on Friday said the actor never liked the idea of "one-dimensional reality" and that gives them hope to take his death not as a loss but a gain "of the things he taught us" and try to see rhythm in everything.</p>.<p>The best way to celebrate Irrfan's life, his wife Sutapa Sikdar, said would be to implement those teachings and evolve and that's what she and their two sons -- Babil and Ayaan -- plan to do.</p>.<p>Irrfan, one of India's finest and most versatile actors, lost his battle with a rare form of cancer and died in a hospital here on Wednesday at the age of 54, leaving cinema lovers across the globe heartbroken.</p>.<p>Acknowledging the outpouring of grief from the actor's fans everywhere, the writer-producer said she cannot "begin to feel alone" when millions were grieving with her.</p>.<p>"I want to assure everyone that this is not a loss, it is a gain. It’s a gain of the things he taught us, and now we shall finally begin to truly implement it and evolve.”</p>.<p>She said even though it is hard to come to terms with Irrfan’s absence, he taught her to not settle for "ordinary in anything".</p>.<p>"It’s unbelievable for us but I would put it in Irrfan’s words, 'it's magical' whether he is there or not there, and that’s what he loved, he never loved one-dimensional reality. The only thing I have a grudge against him is; he has spoiled me for life. His strive for perfection doesn’t let me settle for ordinary in anything.</p>.<p>"There was a rhythm which he always saw in everything, even in cacophony and chaos, so I have learnt to sing and dance to the music of that rhythm, even with my tone-deaf voice and two left feet,” she said.</p>.<p>Calling their lives a masterclass, Sutapa said the actor's cancer diagnosis taught them to find music in noise.</p>.<p>“I learnt to see harmony in the cacophony. The doctor’s reports were like scripts which I wanted to perfect, so I never miss any detail that he sought for in his performance.”</p>.<p>She thanked the “amazing people”, the team of doctors in Delhi, UK and Mumbai who stood by the family during their darkest phase.</p>.<p>Sutapa said it is tough for her to put in words the two and a half year-long journey the family had together, with Irrfan leading the battle from the front.</p>.<p>“It’s difficult to explain what a wondrous, beautiful, overwhelming, painful and exciting this journey has been. I find this 2 and 1/2 years to have been an interlude, which had it’s own beginning, middle and culmination with Irrfan helming the role of the orchestra conductor…” she said.</p>.<p>In the absence of their father, Sutapa said she just hopes her children move ahead with their father's guidance in mind.</p>.<p>"I see my little family, in a boat, with both my sons Babil and Ayaan, paddling it forward, with Irrfan guiding them 'wahan nahi, yahan se modo' but since life is not cinema and there are no retakes, I sincerely wish my children sail this boat safely with their father’s guidance in mind and through the storm.”</p>.<p>Summing up their father's teachings, Babil and Ayan said he always asked them to learn to surrender to "dance of uncertainty" and "not let their mind control them".</p>.<p>Sutapa said the family will plant night-blooming jasmine, Irrfan’s favourite, where he was laid to rest “after a victorious journey”. </p>
<p>Living up to the positive spirit of Irrfan Khan, his family on Friday said the actor never liked the idea of "one-dimensional reality" and that gives them hope to take his death not as a loss but a gain "of the things he taught us" and try to see rhythm in everything.</p>.<p>The best way to celebrate Irrfan's life, his wife Sutapa Sikdar, said would be to implement those teachings and evolve and that's what she and their two sons -- Babil and Ayaan -- plan to do.</p>.<p>Irrfan, one of India's finest and most versatile actors, lost his battle with a rare form of cancer and died in a hospital here on Wednesday at the age of 54, leaving cinema lovers across the globe heartbroken.</p>.<p>Acknowledging the outpouring of grief from the actor's fans everywhere, the writer-producer said she cannot "begin to feel alone" when millions were grieving with her.</p>.<p>"I want to assure everyone that this is not a loss, it is a gain. It’s a gain of the things he taught us, and now we shall finally begin to truly implement it and evolve.”</p>.<p>She said even though it is hard to come to terms with Irrfan’s absence, he taught her to not settle for "ordinary in anything".</p>.<p>"It’s unbelievable for us but I would put it in Irrfan’s words, 'it's magical' whether he is there or not there, and that’s what he loved, he never loved one-dimensional reality. The only thing I have a grudge against him is; he has spoiled me for life. His strive for perfection doesn’t let me settle for ordinary in anything.</p>.<p>"There was a rhythm which he always saw in everything, even in cacophony and chaos, so I have learnt to sing and dance to the music of that rhythm, even with my tone-deaf voice and two left feet,” she said.</p>.<p>Calling their lives a masterclass, Sutapa said the actor's cancer diagnosis taught them to find music in noise.</p>.<p>“I learnt to see harmony in the cacophony. The doctor’s reports were like scripts which I wanted to perfect, so I never miss any detail that he sought for in his performance.”</p>.<p>She thanked the “amazing people”, the team of doctors in Delhi, UK and Mumbai who stood by the family during their darkest phase.</p>.<p>Sutapa said it is tough for her to put in words the two and a half year-long journey the family had together, with Irrfan leading the battle from the front.</p>.<p>“It’s difficult to explain what a wondrous, beautiful, overwhelming, painful and exciting this journey has been. I find this 2 and 1/2 years to have been an interlude, which had it’s own beginning, middle and culmination with Irrfan helming the role of the orchestra conductor…” she said.</p>.<p>In the absence of their father, Sutapa said she just hopes her children move ahead with their father's guidance in mind.</p>.<p>"I see my little family, in a boat, with both my sons Babil and Ayaan, paddling it forward, with Irrfan guiding them 'wahan nahi, yahan se modo' but since life is not cinema and there are no retakes, I sincerely wish my children sail this boat safely with their father’s guidance in mind and through the storm.”</p>.<p>Summing up their father's teachings, Babil and Ayan said he always asked them to learn to surrender to "dance of uncertainty" and "not let their mind control them".</p>.<p>Sutapa said the family will plant night-blooming jasmine, Irrfan’s favourite, where he was laid to rest “after a victorious journey”. </p>