Beauty lies with you

Sexi Saheli is a weekly column of answers to questions you never dared to ask. If something is troubling you and there’s not a soul you can speak to, write to Sexi Saheli at [e-mail]

Hey Saheli,
I love your column and appreciate it. My boyfriend is asking me to run away with him as my parents don’t accept him. I can’t do that because if I do, my parents will consume poison. He has been pestering me since 2020. What should I do?
Ms Problem

Hey Ms Problem,
Thank you for the appreciation. To elope or not to elope, that’s the question? Ask yourself some hard facts first. Do you have a job? What if you run and then feel this guy’s no fun? Being the runaway bride is great in movies but in reality, it could be a different picture. Why do your parents dislike this boy? Is it a fair reason? If it’s not, try convincing them. Tell them you’ll give them a year to agree. At the end of it, if it’s still a no, go where your heart takes you. Hopefully, unlike the pandemic, your boyfriend will still be around in 2022.

Hi Saheli,
It’s me Teddy. My problem is that every day I pray to God before I go to bed that in the night that dream (sex) will come (even though I don’t need that kind of dream). I’m trying my best to avoid such dreams but I can’t. My age is 25. Plz give me a solution ASAP.
Teddy

Hi Teddy,
I hope this solution is fast enough for you. Give God a break. Let him solve poverty, bring world peace and curb global warming instead. To take a load off your guilt, here’s what you can do — just enjoy it. You resisting it is making your urge stronger. Treat it like any other dream — something that happens in fantasy land and not in reality. Think of it as a dream-cum-true.

Hiya Sexi Saheli,
I am literally in love with your column! I have Tubular Breast Deformity and this has left me with low self-esteem about my looks. I don’t want to get any breast surgery. Every time I try to move on, I feel less feminine the moment I see other women with prominent ones. I have never been mocked for the way I look but it seems that I have become a great mocker of my own self. I currently don’t mind about my sex life as such. My only concern is to feel feminine and increase my self-esteem.
A Woman

Hiya A Woman,
Thank you for the love. There are thousands of beautiful women whose boobs are not perfect in the glossy magazine cover way but knowing about them won’t matter, if you don’t see the beauty in you. You need to implant not silicon but self-confidence into yourself. Judging on the basis of A, B, C, D makes sense in a report card, not in a cup. Every day, push-up your shoulders, look into the mirror and say, ‘I am perfect in every, single way’. Feels better, doesn’t-tit?