<p>In Kannada, there is a proverb that says, ‘God has not put a bone in the tongue; the tongue moves in all directions.’ Never mind what words come out of people’s mouths. There are four ways to look at hurt.<br /><br /></p>.<p>1. Someone who has hurt you is pained. They have scars, they are unhappy and miserable. They don’t have joy, they don’t have peace. They have pain and they are wounded so they are causing you hurt.<br /><br /> So you have to be compassionate on those who hurt you, because they are hurt and wounded themselves.<br /><br />2. Those who are causing hurt to you are ignorant. They don’t have a broad vision of life. They don’t know themselves and they don’t know what they are doing. <br /><br />They are ignorant and arrogant. You can only feel sorry for them and hope that someday they will become intelligent. They don’t know that their actions are hurting others, and you wish for them to be more sensitive.<br /><br />3. It is just karma. You had to get this hurt and if not this person then someone else would have given it to you. We must have caused some hurt to someone in the past so nature is bringing it back to us now. When you know that it's just the karma being repaid, you feel very settled.<br /><br />4. It is being done to make you strong. Nature is bringing this to you so that you become strong; so that you discover the strength and power within you. Usually in the pandals (temporary shelters/structures made of fabric and bamboo poles). <br /><br />After putting a pole in its place they shake the pole to see whether it is strong enough or not. Every hurt is trying to shake you, to see whether you are strong or not. It tests your strength.<br /><br /> It is to make you stronger. If you think a wise person or someone intelligent is hurting you, then you should be thankful because there is some purpose in that. <br /><br />If your parents scold you, they are not hurting you; they are coming from a space of care and concern for you. We must recognize that they are doing things out of their limited understanding and love for you.<br /><br />If you have wisdom, you don’t have to go through the pain to learn. When there is lack of wisdom, you go through pain, but you will come out of it in sometime, don’t worry. <br /><br />This is why it is important for one to have a larger context to life. Then all these trivial things don’t really bother you. They are all like waves on the surface of the ocean, they rise and fall. So, have a bigger context. That is atma gyaan (knowledge of the self). <br /><br />“Nothing can shake me, I am much bigger than the emotions, I am much bigger than the world around me, people around me. Their praise and their blame doesn’t matter. I am much bigger than all this!” this awareness uplifts us, then one does not drown in the ocean of <br />emotions, and hurt.</p>
<p>In Kannada, there is a proverb that says, ‘God has not put a bone in the tongue; the tongue moves in all directions.’ Never mind what words come out of people’s mouths. There are four ways to look at hurt.<br /><br /></p>.<p>1. Someone who has hurt you is pained. They have scars, they are unhappy and miserable. They don’t have joy, they don’t have peace. They have pain and they are wounded so they are causing you hurt.<br /><br /> So you have to be compassionate on those who hurt you, because they are hurt and wounded themselves.<br /><br />2. Those who are causing hurt to you are ignorant. They don’t have a broad vision of life. They don’t know themselves and they don’t know what they are doing. <br /><br />They are ignorant and arrogant. You can only feel sorry for them and hope that someday they will become intelligent. They don’t know that their actions are hurting others, and you wish for them to be more sensitive.<br /><br />3. It is just karma. You had to get this hurt and if not this person then someone else would have given it to you. We must have caused some hurt to someone in the past so nature is bringing it back to us now. When you know that it's just the karma being repaid, you feel very settled.<br /><br />4. It is being done to make you strong. Nature is bringing this to you so that you become strong; so that you discover the strength and power within you. Usually in the pandals (temporary shelters/structures made of fabric and bamboo poles). <br /><br />After putting a pole in its place they shake the pole to see whether it is strong enough or not. Every hurt is trying to shake you, to see whether you are strong or not. It tests your strength.<br /><br /> It is to make you stronger. If you think a wise person or someone intelligent is hurting you, then you should be thankful because there is some purpose in that. <br /><br />If your parents scold you, they are not hurting you; they are coming from a space of care and concern for you. We must recognize that they are doing things out of their limited understanding and love for you.<br /><br />If you have wisdom, you don’t have to go through the pain to learn. When there is lack of wisdom, you go through pain, but you will come out of it in sometime, don’t worry. <br /><br />This is why it is important for one to have a larger context to life. Then all these trivial things don’t really bother you. They are all like waves on the surface of the ocean, they rise and fall. So, have a bigger context. That is atma gyaan (knowledge of the self). <br /><br />“Nothing can shake me, I am much bigger than the emotions, I am much bigger than the world around me, people around me. Their praise and their blame doesn’t matter. I am much bigger than all this!” this awareness uplifts us, then one does not drown in the ocean of <br />emotions, and hurt.</p>
