Two wrongs do not make a right

There is a famous saying – “Two wrongs don’t make a right.” Meaning, it is not right to do something bad to someone just because they did something bad to you. In our daily life, we end up doing many things that are wrong, but still we justify it to be right by arguing well.Argument has always been a very powerful self-defence tool for people since ages.

But one must know an important fact that behind every argument we make lies our ignorance of the truth. And sometimes deceiving ourselves by knowing the truth.Hence the best way to sort things out is through dialogue and healthy discussion.

The beautiful part of a dialogue is that it’s a mutual exploration for reaching towards an amicable resolution with an open exchange of views compared to an argument, which leads to a battle of opinions.In dialogue, there is much more listening than talking. And in an argument, there is war! A dialogue is possible only when two parties collaborate to uncover a deeper wisdom and co-create a new understanding with a positive attitude.

We all argue in our daily life because we have an opinion on almost everything based on our beliefs; more so, when we see beliefs of others as a personal threat, we either start defending or attacking, creating an environment of fear and aggression.There are many always armed with their opinions prepared to defend their beliefs and ready for a battle.

The best way to avoid an argument with such people is first support their beliefs positively to make them feel happy from inside and then, after some time, make them realise their mistake with utmost love and care.Many of us have experienced that if we do not have an opinion about important issues, then we are considered to be weak and conciliatory. But we must not forget that if our opinion is in defence of a position or against someone else’s opinion. Then it might result in a huge conflict that might lead to a war-like situation.

History has shown that at the root of a majority of the wars fought were differences of opinion and clash of beliefs. Hence, it takes a lot of courage to have a point of view and yet be receptive to others to the extent that you are prepared to shift your contention.

This shows that you are flexible and you acknowledge there are many other ways of looking at a situation. It also says that you have the humility to learn from others’ point of view.

However to possess such courage, one needs to be enlightened with spiritual powers, for, it is an enlightened soul that moves from an argument to a discussion to a dialogue, a process that is driven not just by the need, but by a genuine curiosity with the intention of understanding others to create a peaceful and harmonious environment.