JOIN USBeyond superficial love
Isn't it strange, everybody craves love but nobody knows how to go about it. The modern man is intellectually developed but emotionally he has much to learn. In fact the more he grows in intellect the more he feels the dearth of love. Love is not something you look for, love is something you become. And that's the catch!
Osho has delved deeply into the phenomenon of love. His insights will be valuable for lovers of all ages.
Rather than asking for love, start giving love. Forget about getting, simply give -- and I guarantee you, you will get much.
This is one of the secrets. Love is not a quantity; it is a quality, and a quality that grows by giving and dies if you hold it. Be an emperor, not a beggar; If you try to possess love, you are killing love. If you possess a woman, you have reduced her to be a thing. A husband is a thing, a wife is a thing, and when you become a thing you become ugly -- you lose freedom, you lose poetry, you lose romance; Romantic love is not love. When you don't have the possibility of making a sexual contact, that repressed energy becomes romance.
In the past ages people lived in the romantic love because society created so many obstacles for sex. That repressed energy would start moving into their heads -- would become poetry, painting and romance, and they would have dreams; Unless a love is based in deep meditation, it will be superficial. It will not have any profundity. Let love and meditation be your two wings. In love, you connect with the other; in meditation, you connect with yourself. Both are enriching.