Is the term 'love' any more relevant?

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hen you say "I Love you", does it not mean that you are obliging the other person with your attention if not your total care?

This term raises a few questions? Can this feeling be made universal? Does it mean that you are personally attached to the loved one?

If I have felt love" towards my wife, it is a psychological trauma of "expectancy" of reciprocation of "giving" and "taking" of each other's self. Just because of this one word, you may expect more from the other person and non-fulfillment of your wish and desire may lead to resentment, anger, frustration and you may try to impose your will on your wife more violently to subjugate her to your ways.

"Love your God", "Your parents", Your wife and children", "Love your family, br-others and sisters", have all a ring of selfish motives, desires of expectancy attach-ed to it and an element of giving and taking.

Is this term "Love" any more relevant, in the present life governed by material acquisitions, which is on an hourly basis and life revolving around 'profit' and 'gains', and the acquisition of personal talents for acquiring more personal comforts? Should 'love' be 'shared' and 'gained' or 'lost' with these motives in aim? Should it mean, to share one loaf of bread, which is hardly sufficient for yourself with umpteen numbers of dependents and "love thy neighbour as thyself. Do you expect a similar treatment from your
"neighbour" and all others to whom you profess to have 'love' or expect them to 'love' you?

Each one of us chooses a guide.  For Muslims,  Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) has been a beacon of light and has been a shining example of love.

It is quoted in Imam Ghazali's "Ihya Ulum-di-din (Vol. IV) at the conclusion of the chapter on "Love and Attachment."

Hazrat All said: “I asked the Prophet about his Sunnat and he said: "Marifat is the root of my favour, wisdom is the root of my religion, love is my foundation, attachment is my conveyance, Zikr of God is my friend, certainty of faith is my secret treasure, sorrow is my companion, wisdom is my sword, patience is my sheet, contentment is my valuable treasure, failure is my business, sure faith is my power, truthfulness is my intercessor, divine service is my object of love, Jihad is my nature and prayer is the coolness of my eyes."

Thus, it has come to be known that "Love" and "affection" are the most beautiful flowers in the garden of life.