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Despite the recent hue and cry about the safety of women in the City, it’s no secret that the fairer sex is subjected to its fair share of disturbing situations on the streets.
Whether it’s eve-teasing, groping or more serious attacks, it’s clear that women need to learn how to take care of themselves. But it’s difficult to decide how to react in such a situation — sometimes, kicking up a fuss might take care of a problem; at others, it simply makes matters worse.
Metrolife speaks to a few Bangaloreans to find out how they feel one should handle a threatening situation.
Anagha N, a second PU student, feels that it’s best to ignore eve-teasers or people who try to grab a woman’s attention. “As far as possible, when someone says anything gross or nasty, just ignore it and walk away. I often call my dad when I’m in a spot, and I stay on the phone till the threat has passed. Often, when eve-teasers see that there is no reaction, they just move on to their next prey,” says Anagha.
Nisha Jain, who worked in the aviation sector, says, “Such instances do happen often. Instead of trying to handle the situation by myself, the best option is to call out for help. Carrying a sharp object can be of use.”
Most people agree that it’s dangerous to be in such a situation alone. And if something like this does take place, it’s best to get to a crowded place. Karen Nunes, a professional, believes, “Being alone just aggravates the situation. If someone physically assaults me, I would react and fight back but it’s better to find a spot where people are around, rather than try to do something by yourself.”
Yaseer Alam, a sales executive, feels, “It’s better to be alert and vigilant than to regret any carelessness later. Keep your eyes open and keep track of who’s walking around you and how close they are. When you see or sense something fishy, change lanes.”
Yaseer, who’s also the son of a police inspector in the City, says, “When you get a gut feeling of danger around, rush to the nearest cop. Don’t try to be a hero, instead call out for help. Call someone you feel will be able to help you. And if you’re harassed physically, then you’ve every right to protect your body. Some hard blows, a few kicks and punches would be good.”
Dr Vinod Chebbi, a psychotherapist, advises, “It’s best to ignore someone who’s making comments about you. Any reaction will cause a counter reaction so it’s best to keep quiet. When ignoring doesn’t help, try talking to them. Tell them that you understand what they’re trying to do in a very calm, unemotional and passive voice — this unnerves them.”