Where are the chicks, bro?

Where are the chicks, bro?

Where are the chicks, bro?

It's Friday night. You were good during the week. Worked till 7 pm. Swiggy'd the biryani and Netflix'd the latest shows at 9 pm. Rinse and repeat.

And now, you deserve a drink with some pals. And hopefully, as you saw in 'Pyaar Ka Punchnama', some gorgeous girl with eight million Instagram followers is going to notice you and your three friends sitting by the bar and be like, "Oh yeah, that's the one."

If this sounds familiar, keep reading. If not, please email me what's your secret. I need a reason to get a six pack anyways.

I grew up in Los Angeles, outside of Hollywood. You know, that place where they show guys going out, having the best time at a club and getting some action every night. Conveniently they don't show the rude bouncers asking you for money, the long lines at the bar to get one small watered-down drink, and the gangs of guys around 10 girls
with everybody generally just wondering 'where did I go wrong?'

It's the same Hollywood (and Bollywood) that says the best way to get a girl is to dance around her with 100 other men, or that fairy dust and spaceships are right next door.

I wish a real Bollywood movie just showed life as we know ityou know, you see a cute girl in the lift, you both just look at your phones in awkwardness, and that's that. Where's my fairytale?!?

Maybe it is time for a reality check.

Elon Musk said "If you want to do something new, you have to boil things down to the most fundamental truths and reason up from there, instead of by analogy."

So let's look at the basics.

Women are 51% (depending on country) of the population. They are every other person. Yet why does the one place you think they exist in abundance, which is a nightclub or pub, seem so different from the truth?

Because it's all a farce.

If you really want to spend your Friday nights out with some ladies, start putting yourselves in places they hang out at that also might make you a better person.
Why do so many people meet their partners at school, at work, at conferences, on holiday, etc? Because they're all on a similar journey and ambition attracts.

Go sign up for zumba, your local French or Spanish class, just lift at
the gym, pick up a hobby like guitar, singing or salsa and so on.
Don't be the creepy guy in these places and don't do them just to try and talk to every female (you'll get singled out fast). But work
on yourself and eventually people want to work on you.

There was a quote I read a long time ago it went something like "Men lose a lot of success chasing women, but never lose success chasing women."

The point being, as politically incorrect it might seem now, don't
look for your partner while trying to be your worst (alcoholic) self.
Be your best self, and they will end up looking for you.

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