'I, me and myself'

'I, me and myself'

Personal care

'I, me and myself'

Refreshing: Taking time off to relax and reconnect with oneself is important.

Most of us live in a modern multi-tasking world, where the push to do more and do it faster is all pervasive. Many people overbook their daily lives, from young working mothers, professionals or kids who are under pressure to live upto unrealistic parental expectations. 

Counsellors say media-savvy gen next is being raised to believe that life is a non-stop rollercoaster of phenomenal fun times — and if every moment isn’t filled with activity, something is wrong.

“People need time to recharge their batteries, daydream and nurture their inner lives. Call it anything — rejuvenation time, quiet time, alone time, personal time, self-care... ME TIME! Everybody needs some. Working moms, students, career-driven over achievers, stay-at-home moms, especially those with young children and never-ending household chores,” says Suma Nagesh, a counsellor who firmly believes in the rejuvenating benefits of taking time out of a packed schedule on a regular basis to simply get in touch with your inner self.

Preeti Challam holds a high profile job as an investment banker and has two young children.

“My husband travels a lot on work and I made the big decision to continue with my job while raising the kids. We also have a hectic social life. At the end of a high-stress day, I need to get out of the office and home to the kids, cope with projects, homework and an unreliable nanny. But I also need time to myself. It never happens. Come Friday, I’m wiped out and dreading the weekend.”

Young people often have manic schedules between academics, exams, tuitions, projects and internships. Add to that very little sleep because they secretly play video games or watch TV until the early hours. How do they qualify ‘me time’?

“I take at least two hours off everyday and immerse myself in music. Playing the piano relaxes me completely and removes every last vestige of stress or tension,” says student  Neville Barucha.

 Focusing on self is not about being selfish and is not just about taking breaks. It is about putting more energy into and enjoying those tasks that are more fulfiling for you, say experts. Benjamin Michael says finding pleasure in little things soothes and relaxes him.

“A nice hot cup of tea, a scenic view, hanging out with close friends or just chilling out by myself is my idea of ‘me time’,” he says.

“‘Me time’ is necessary to clear the mind. Factor it into your day or at least your week. It could be a walk in the park alone, a soak in the tub or catching up with old friends. Don’t allow your life to become a habit and a chore and not the joy it was meant to be,” says Suma.

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