JOIN USMany times, we come across folk with warped opinions, ossified views, bigoted attitude, along with entrenched ideas/ convictions about everything in life.
These lot are not only adamant in aggressively adhering to their own views, but they also try foisting their opinions on others around them. As they are under the illusion that what they think/say/do are the ultimate right things in world.
In fact, some people, in the process of proving their points, even ‘go ballistic’ at times, using barbed words, thereby creating rifts in relationships, besides causing everlasting rancour. Perhaps, they are unable to understand perceptions and perspectives of everything around differ from person to person. Hence, what is ideal/absurd to one person may not be ideal/absurd to the other.
Such being the case, when we derisively try to disparage, denigrate, deride a person’s views with downright disregard, it can obviously create deadly dents in a relationship, making that person drift away from us. Another factor that can make relations go sour is when, in the name of being close, we start taking undue liberties (as if it’s our inalienable right), and try exploiting someone’s goodness/ generosity, either intentionally or inadvertently.
Like, say, a kindhearted colleague, working like a Trojan, is extravagantly helpful in doing your work sometimes. Instead of being thankful and reciprocating his gesture, in case you shuffle more of your tasks on him, you can witness this attitude of yours annihilating all the relation bonds. Similarly, say, a well-heeled friend is ever splurging money on you, during all your fun outings. If you continue to batten on his munificence, by financially exploiting him, sooner or later, you may find rips forming in the fabric of that friendship.
Yet another aspect that can make relations go sour is when we launch on ‘unhealthy competitions’. At times, deliberately or unwittingly, we start contending with our own close friends/relatives, by doing everything that they do, whether it’s suitable to our lifestyle or not. Whether affordable or not, we’d like to possess same apparels, accessories, apartments or alluring vehicles that they possess. This unhealthy envy can cause revulsions in minds of persons, competed with, thereby causing wide chasms in relations.
Our inability to offer adequate time/energy to relations, too, can make them go sour. We seem to be terrifically adept at trotting out the same trite excuses of time-paucity, when we have surplus time for ourselves. Detached attitude, lack of appreciation, use of scathing words (under garb of being frank), besides breach of trust, all these too can undermine relation links. Indeed, good relations are like priceless jewels in the treasure-chest of life. So, it is good to gingerly guard this gorgeous treasure to enjoy its great worth.