<p>A lady with strained eyes, beaten up feelings and a forced smile, asked me, ‘I feel life is miserable, my marriage did not work out, hence I am divorced; my son constantly falls sick, financially I am in a bad shape, I am struggling. <br /><br /></p>.<p>Do all these have some purpose or is God playing with me and having HIS fun? I become impatient and restless in my office work. How shall I handle my impatience and my misery? I feel terribly tensed. Is there a way out?’<br /><br />With deep compassion, I said, ‘If your marriage has failed, can you not treat failure as a learning experience? Failure is a fertilizer for success. Failure is God’s or nature’s purpose to teach us something profound.’<br /><br />‘How can I do that?’ asked the lady.<br /><br />I said, ‘Many times relationships do not work because men and women are not sensitive to each other’s comfort and discomfort zones.<br /><br />This unawareness leads one to tread into the other’s discomfort zone. Once this happens, one is unhappy and feels the other responsible for it. <br /><br />Then each one is busy maintaining a score of one’s hurt and settling accounts with each other. <br /><br />To be aware of each other’s sensitive zones helps in understanding each other very well. There is so much of struggle in my life, why?’, cried the lady. <br /><br />I asked, ‘Are you a sportswoman?’ ‘Yes’, she said in a soft voice. I asked her, ‘In sports don’t we struggle to reach the top?’ ‘Yes’, the lady answered.<br /><br />Struggle is a part and parcel of life. Make your struggles sacred, give them eyes to see, ears to hear, and heart to feel, legs to walk. <br /><br />Then you would have implanted sacredness in your struggle, which in turn will lead you up the ladder of success. ‘This would take time’, she said.<br /><br />One should learn to wait with understanding and commitment.<br /><br />We have to wait; our struggles have a cosmic purpose. When our agenda is not fulfilled, it gives us pain. <br /><br />But the universe has its own plans. We have to wait and make our struggles sacred.<br /><br />Surrender to the Cosmic plan; do not be a victim to your agenda. Greatness lies not in being strong but in the right use of sacred strength.</p>
<p>A lady with strained eyes, beaten up feelings and a forced smile, asked me, ‘I feel life is miserable, my marriage did not work out, hence I am divorced; my son constantly falls sick, financially I am in a bad shape, I am struggling. <br /><br /></p>.<p>Do all these have some purpose or is God playing with me and having HIS fun? I become impatient and restless in my office work. How shall I handle my impatience and my misery? I feel terribly tensed. Is there a way out?’<br /><br />With deep compassion, I said, ‘If your marriage has failed, can you not treat failure as a learning experience? Failure is a fertilizer for success. Failure is God’s or nature’s purpose to teach us something profound.’<br /><br />‘How can I do that?’ asked the lady.<br /><br />I said, ‘Many times relationships do not work because men and women are not sensitive to each other’s comfort and discomfort zones.<br /><br />This unawareness leads one to tread into the other’s discomfort zone. Once this happens, one is unhappy and feels the other responsible for it. <br /><br />Then each one is busy maintaining a score of one’s hurt and settling accounts with each other. <br /><br />To be aware of each other’s sensitive zones helps in understanding each other very well. There is so much of struggle in my life, why?’, cried the lady. <br /><br />I asked, ‘Are you a sportswoman?’ ‘Yes’, she said in a soft voice. I asked her, ‘In sports don’t we struggle to reach the top?’ ‘Yes’, the lady answered.<br /><br />Struggle is a part and parcel of life. Make your struggles sacred, give them eyes to see, ears to hear, and heart to feel, legs to walk. <br /><br />Then you would have implanted sacredness in your struggle, which in turn will lead you up the ladder of success. ‘This would take time’, she said.<br /><br />One should learn to wait with understanding and commitment.<br /><br />We have to wait; our struggles have a cosmic purpose. When our agenda is not fulfilled, it gives us pain. <br /><br />But the universe has its own plans. We have to wait and make our struggles sacred.<br /><br />Surrender to the Cosmic plan; do not be a victim to your agenda. Greatness lies not in being strong but in the right use of sacred strength.</p>
