JOIN USMany of us, at many social and official gatherings, would have encountered these singularly repulsive folks, whose behaviour smacks of superlative arrogance. They would be donning this despicable attitude of I-know-it-all, and to them, what they utter is the only ultimate truth.
Apparently, these abominable characters would be abysmally poor listeners, who won’t have even a modicum of respect for others’ opinions. Rather they try foisting their views on others.
This apart, these aforesaid folks are desperate attention-seekers, too, who always wish to be in the spotlight. Naturally, even if someone ventures to speak in the gathering, they try horning in, by rudely interjecting or sidetracking the speaker, by uttering something inconsequential.
They even indulge in mordant comments or scathing side-swipes, just to pull people down, so that they can hitch themselves up. Quite obviously, these folks are ignoramus of the words like simplicity, humility and modesty.
Interestingly, what these folks don’t realise is that by adorning this sort of attitude, they not only would be projecting their own bad persona/upbringing, they also would be making the people around spurn their company.
On the contrary, a person can be a real crowd-puller by adhering to certain appealing behaviour/manners. Like, for instance, always flashing that fabulous smile can instantly captivate people’s hearts.
Since, people have the proclivity to gravitate towards those genial and vivacious folks, while they get repelled by the grumpy and snooty lots.
Secondly, regardless of whether we conform to others’ thinking pattern or not, it’s just a courtesy to listen to their talk. At times, listening would help in widening our intellectual horizon by bestowing fresh insights and affixing new dimensions to our thought processes.
Next, besides polished and refined manners, talking such matters that interest others, too, can also elicit people’s attention. For, when we try wallowing in self-glory, by advertising our own achievements/ acquisitions, people hardly would care, as these are mere dust-specks to them.
Apparently, how much comfortable people are in our company depends on how much comfort we are proffering them. So, it’s good to steer clear of inflammatory arguments too while in a group. After all, we don’t win an award by winning an argument.
We rather lose people and their love! Moreover, by being loud/brazen, rustic/abrasive, we’d be not a crowd-puller but a crowd-disperser.
These apart, to enliven the ambience around, if we can indulge in good-hearted ribbing, raillery, quick-witted humour, warm gestures (like passing a glass of water), liberal use of compliments, thanks/sorry, etc, well, it’s an added bonanza.
Finally, we should note that, just as the bedazzling fashion accessories beautify our body; the pleasant manners do prettify our inner persona.